But I'll let you in on my own thought about this: fighting is good, it shows that we're passionate.
"The ultimate quest for a baby, is that for wisdom. In certain philosophies, the quest for Wisdom expresses itself as the slow ascension towards Buddhahood. At the end of his quest, a Western baby can brutally decide to slow down all his daily gestures and reduce the size of his universe. He is then capable of playing cards for hours straight, while talking about his daily life to a barman. It is the ultimate renouncement of the desire to achieve Buddhahood that only a wise Westerner is capable of".
http://www.tourdafrique.com/orient/index.htm We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars. Oscar Wilde