The West is highly totalitarian, but it uses mass media control to enforce its message, so it can pretend to be liberated.
This works well as long as no one starts asking hard questions. ('Why am I doing this job anyway? Why are public systems being starved of cash and breaking down?') But aggressive dissenters are still intimidated, harassed and jailed as soon as they start making a difference. (qv Genoa) Although to be fair activists have been good at marginalising themselves, believing that a bit of shouting, throwing and agit-prop is going to make a difference.
Less aggressive 'debate' is fine because it's easy enough to ignore.
Meanwhile the scale of media saturation is staggering. Not only are most people exposed to constant advertising from radio and TV - how totalitarian is a system which delivers hours of media reinforcement every day? - but dogma is repeated regularly in most of the news outlets.
You can see how locked down the system is when reality (e.g. climate change) creates conditions that require policy change. Instead of responding with flexibility, the dogma responds by repeating the same old messages more loudly, so it maintain exclusiveness and privilege.
The reality you describe in the West is a dangerous pathology, but it needs a different name. I can't think of a good one at the moment, and that indicates a problem for rational discourse on the subject (or that I have a momentary memory hole -- oops, that term is taken...). Words and ideas I offer here may be used freely and without attribution.
Contemporary totalitarianism rejects the Ideal and substitutes it with the Object, the gimmick, the Show, yet its object is identical, complete biological control, preferably through a consensus of the majority. And if events are presently attenuated before the horrors of Stalinism and Nazism, it is wrong to make a simplified caricature of this, our past. The horrors of Nazism and Fascism enjoyed popular consensus, just as torture and Guantanamos do today. Extraordinary rendition will tomorrow be ordinary. Dissent will be dealt with in day-care centers. The show must go on.