Don't try to tell me you don't have some heroes from way back in your first decade on earth that didn't affect your present life?

Chris - we are boys still - and hold on to it. We can never be as altruistic as we were then. All my values stem from my family environment; I just didn't get to realise it until recently. I may have done very different things from what my parents envisioned for me, but I did follow their core values eventually. I only took my time to understand what those core values really were - because I looked at them so superficially, then.

I don't think my parents had a plan. But I do think they did their best to use their lives to fulfill themselves, as well as making considerable sacrifices to ensure that their children could also experience that fulfillment. I don't have a plan with my daughters either. Like everyone else, this is a first tiime experience. One cannot have a plan in these circumstances. What one can have is an attitude.

An attitude, IMHO, is essential to acheiving fulfillment

You can't be me, I'm taken