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As a woman, that heartfelt story gives me chills or horror -- I HOPE it's bullshit that he's making up.  Otherwise, his son has somehow learned so little respect for his own mother that he thinks she would have gladly aborted him if given the chance.  How sick is that?

And, as someone points out, apparently no thought whatsoever to his father's role.  Pointing out that we're all here because our parents didn't use contraception is entirely on point.

Maybe we can eventually make language a complete impediment to understanding. -Hobbes

by Izzy (izzy at eurotrib dot com) on Thu Aug 23rd, 2007 at 02:01:25 PM EST
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Aah, I see what you're saying. I didn't quite think my previous comment through.

"The basis of optimism is sheer terror" - Oscar Wilde
by NordicStorm on Thu Aug 23rd, 2007 at 02:10:15 PM EST
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NordicStorm - Thank you.

The story is very true and was repeated to us by his teacher who was taken aback by his very thought through comment at such a young age. I had never thought much about the topic until I heard this and then questioned my own values concerning the sanctity of life: death penalties and abortion.

The birth mother was only about 16 and not able to make her own decision, so she relied on her mother who believed that the child should be allowed to live and the right couple selected for adoption.

by BJ Lange (langebj@gmail.com) on Thu Aug 23rd, 2007 at 02:29:51 PM EST
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So if your son had said he hoped contraception would be made illegal otherwise he and others wouldn't be there, would you and his teacher still have thought this was a reasonable line of thought?  How about if he came out strongly against abstinence programs?  

Do you think it's ok for your son to believe his birth mother would have gladly aborted him if not for the intervention of others?  What would your reaction have been if he'd said he was relieved his mother didn't leave him in a dumpster?  Would you have said, yeah, you're mighty lucky that's illegal or she might have?

Perhaps you should try to be more wise than a fifth grader and reassure him that his birth mother probably loves him and has his best interests at heart, instead of reinforcing his fears that she'd have wiped him out of existence if given the chance.  You and his teacher should be ashamed of yourselves.


Maybe we can eventually make language a complete impediment to understanding. -Hobbes

by Izzy (izzy at eurotrib dot com) on Thu Aug 23rd, 2007 at 03:04:23 PM EST
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Perhaps when he gets older he'll realize that if he had never been, he wouldn't have cared (and be able to consider my statement philosophically). Or, put another way, someday he might be able to view the world outside of his current egocentric lens.

you are the media you consume.

by MillMan (millguy at gmail) on Thu Aug 23rd, 2007 at 04:34:30 PM EST
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