This is not, repeat, NOT, about changing anyone to accommodate anyone else!!! That would become a resentment that leads nowhere. Integrating men and women in a natural way should be ....´nat-ur-al´ and not some business textbook nonsense that just becomes another excuse not to do it.
This is about being conscious, aware and respectful about 'the other'. That´s all! ´The other´ being women, being the poor, being other races, being...... It´s doing what you do in a social context. It's that simple. Our knowledge has surpassed our wisdom. -Charu Saxena.
Prior to the Intertubes, social contexts were often discrete. Family conversations, pub dirtdishing about the bosses, poker players' interdeal chitchats, teenage BFFs up in the bedroom, stag nights, hen nights, board rooms, club discussions, AA meetings, WI lectures, cafes, bus stops. Each context has its own rules and freedoms. Each context has its own behaviours. They were discrete because they were rarely overheard - 'were' because many of these contexts are now eavesdropped upon.
In online communities, almost everything is 'overheard'. We carry over our RW behaviours into this world because we are lazy. We haven't yet adjusted to the overhearing. But it will come - if we persist in the right spirit. An online community will become another discrete social context with its own rules and freedoms. You can't be me, I'm taken
