Though at large I never particularly was involved in this subject (I mean women's rights in conservative muslim societies) knowing about it either personally (when i visited backward poor muslim villages) or through the press I think it is largely misconception in the west that women in muslim socities "live in hell" despite all what press used to report.
Not all, just feminists or otherwise distinguished women like Taslima Nasreen, they definitely feel frustrated and in many cases threatened. There are no conditions for independent women to live securely, it's true, but if they have protectors, strong families they generally do not feel suffering at all.