Did someone call you intolerant?

"Pretending that you already know the answer when you don't is not actually very helpful." ~Migeru.

It's not that I mind what's being written, it's that sometimes people want debates to be carried out on their terms and get all huffy when they're not.

It doesn't seem a very mature or useful attitude.

We're all adults here (any child members?) and have to take responsibility for our own actions - whether to go, to stay, to antagonise others, or to try and resolve disputes as they arise.  A certain amount of coming and going is inevitable in any case.  But I think you are taking too much on if you regard every leaver as a personal failure - unless you want ET to remain a primarily personal project - which is fair enough, if that is your intent.

"It's a mystery to me - the game commences, For the usual fee - plus expenses, Confidential information - it's in my diary..."

I've had a few run-ins here and I still believe they were about specific viewpoints that are still worth arguing about - otherwise I wouldn't still be here. We are human.

ET is an organizational microcosm that IMO models the future, not the past. This is what democracy is going to be like - we have to find ways to make it work.

For those of us with adult offspring - letting go is very very difficult. But it has to be done. Pushing out of the nest seems to me such a very basic, but painful responsibility.

You can't be me, I'm taken