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I haven't got any bony ridges.

What does this mean? (Go easy on me).

by afew (afew(a in a circle)eurotrib_dot_com) on Thu May 1st, 2008 at 04:09:46 PM EST
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(Go easy on me).

Lacking any bony ridges, that may be the only possible way to go on you.

"Pretending that you already know the answer when you don't is not actually very helpful." ~Migeru.

by poemless on Thu May 1st, 2008 at 04:23:37 PM EST
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I don't have bad ones either on my eyebrows. I only have slight knuckles too, which is fortunate as it has meant I haven't needed facial cosmetic surgery. Although I still think it would be nice as I've seen the results on a firend and it's amazing.

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by Helen (lareinagal at yahoo dot co dot uk) on Thu May 1st, 2008 at 05:14:05 PM EST
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I have to say that I don't understand what you mean when you talk about bony ridges on your eyebrows, or 'knuckles'?? on your face. Though the surgery sounds intriguing...

I should point out that one of my friends is an FtM, so I've kinda seen a lot of trans stuff from the other side. He has actually written a report about transsexual people and health care in Europe, which I am considering a diary about, just cause he's my friend.

Member of the Anti-Fabulousness League since 1987.

by Ephemera on Thu May 1st, 2008 at 05:24:56 PM EST
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No, ridges on the knuckles of my hand.

Eyebrow ridges are bony protusions on men's faces. It seems related to manual labour cos you see them regularly on builders etc, but rarely on office workers. I guess ya gotta be looking for them cos mostly we see the face, not the constituent parts.

Talking of essays on transgenderism, here are the three I wrote

Thoughts in a Waiting Room

In the Land between Blue and Pink

Men/Women : Emotions and multi-tasking

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by Helen (lareinagal at yahoo dot co dot uk) on Thu May 1st, 2008 at 05:56:09 PM EST
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Very interesting, thanks for the read. Though I must say your thoughts weren't really what I was expecting.

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by Ephemera on Thu May 1st, 2008 at 06:44:22 PM EST
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I'd love to know what you mean by that.

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by Helen (lareinagal at yahoo dot co dot uk) on Thu May 1st, 2008 at 07:07:55 PM EST
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Sometimes you can be pretty cynical or snarky in comments (against the idiots, not us), but those diaries have a completely different tone. They're quite tender really.

Also, I found your analysis of your condition to be different to what I expected. My friend is often quick to overturn common narratives, and rephrase his experiences and insights in entirely new ways.

You also mentioned you were working on a 'transition diary'. Anything come of it?

Member of the Anti-Fabulousness League since 1987.

by Ephemera on Thu May 1st, 2008 at 07:30:53 PM EST
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Nothing came of it because I felt that "Thoughts in a Waiting Room" had crossed a line on this site. As if I'd stopped writing about the wider issue and was just being mawkish on my own behalf.

What analysis of my condition did you expect ? I'm curious.

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by Helen (lareinagal at yahoo dot co dot uk) on Thu May 1st, 2008 at 07:40:47 PM EST
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Well, I suppose you've kinda answered that yourself just now, in the sense that I thought you would push on the wider issues of gender and sexuality, and how they are seen in society. I mean, gender and sexuality are a pretty interesting things to me, and, like my friend, I'm sure I would find your perspective interesting. I can tell you, finding out about FtMs is mind blowing. There are absolutely none anywhere in the media, like I didn't know they even existed.

Member of the Anti-Fabulousness League since 1987.
by Ephemera on Thu May 1st, 2008 at 07:49:14 PM EST
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It's actually difficult for me to talk about these wider issues because I don't know bout wider society. I don't have an academic approach to such things, don't do research etc. All I can write about is what I see, think and feel.

I hope I made it plain that TGs are less united by their similarities than by their dissimilarities. Each of us has a different experience of our condition, a different understanding of it. It is very easy to read books and trim your personal narrative to fit an attractive wider theory as a form of self-validation. But too many of these books are written by people who early on betray they have no real understanding of the phenomenon. For instance, the entire charing Cross experience is driven by what I consider to be an unsympathetic psychological approach that regards people who aren't dissuaded and proceed to surgery as failures.

So there are no wider views, I extrapolate where I can, but make it plain that I am doing so from a statistical sample of one.

I can only write about what happened to me and how I felt about it.

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by Helen (lareinagal at yahoo dot co dot uk) on Thu May 1st, 2008 at 08:06:04 PM EST
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