Both are projections of your unconscious self, one trying to fool the other that there isn't a dominance hierarchy at work in order to maintain a narrative of spurious equality and democracy.  But it doesn't ultimately, matter, because the I that knows this is also the I that both dominates and is dominated.  It is our fractal realities that think there is an other that is not also part of the I, and the violence of the supposed conflict but the energy of the self trying to re-unify itself....

Now, aren't you sorry you asked, especially on a Saturday evening?

"It's a mystery to me - the game commences, For the usual fee - plus expenses, Confidential information - it's in my diary..."