your point is accurate, but humans need leaders sometimes, and to have ones ready for those times.
true? ~"When an inner situation is not made conscious, it appears outside as fate." Karl Jung~
Humans vary widely in their social relations. Yes, we were originally adapted to small groups. How much can that be modified by atomizing influences in society?
I don't know, but society seems to be limping along. Barely. Align culture with our nature.