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It is a problem when it hurts your partner, or would if he/she knew. If a person is fine with their partner doing it then why should anyone else care, it's their relationship, not ours. I'm personally fine with open casual relationships, i.e. if I'm not in love, if I am in love it's a very different story. On the other hand I can't stand the idea that I shouldn't be able to interact with female friends the same way I do with male ones.  Problems arise when the partners are incompatible in their attitude towards fidelity, when there is hypocrisy, selfishness, or just the unfortunate uncontrollable vagaries of emotions and desire.  People aren't perfect and occasionally do something to hurt their partners. At that point in addition to the pain the partner has to decide whether or not the relationship has to end.

 I can't say that there is much difference between men and women that I've known in this regard. Both have spanned the full spectrum of jealousy from intense to complete lack thereof, and both have been equally prone to infidelity.

by MarekNYC on Tue Jan 31st, 2006 at 01:05:17 AM EST

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