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The truth is that I like my inexpensive but original silver jewellery much more than any of those solitaires, princess cuts and eternity bands lining the Hatton Garden streets. The trip served a purpose: we decided we would design our own rings. And won't spend more than a couple hundred pounds on it at most. I will reuse a diamond out of an old ring my mom once found and wore for the rest of her life, so I will carry a bit of her with me as well. Miguel will get his desired mokume ring, and we'll all be happy.
Unfortunately, Miguel's surname, which sounds great in Spanish, spells the same way as the word "carcass" in English. How's that for a middle name?
Well if nothing else it will give your child a leg up in the 2020 Goth revival ;-) Any idiot can face a crisis - it's day to day living that wears you out.
I had the same reaction when I saw that women adressed by their husbands name - and I found it even more amazing as I have been lectured as to how much more independent American women are compared to European women.
Then Dear Old Dad had a massive stroke and stopped speaking to her (even though they live alone together) except on occasion to accuse her of having an affair with "that snake!," the kindly neighbor across the street. Now it's perfectly acceptable to address her as Doris.
Miguel I believe is right about the half asses. See by having two half asses you can be stubborn together, rather than against one another.
Ah marriage.....
The details may change change, but the frustration is supposed to be all the same. In the end though as the Spanish say, vale la pena. I wouldn't know being somewhat more full ass, than half ass when it comes to women. Ironically, I've found that it helps not to speak the same language, that way you can feign ignorance of the language. Or find an English girl, because they'll put up with anything.
I ate dinner with my Korean friend's family a while back, and his wife asked if I had a wife. I said I never found anyone (not entirely true, the aforementioned Englishwomen would have been perfect, but alas she lives in England.....) So she says to me....
Have you ever considered arranged marriage?
Wow. I didn't know how to respond. I had never really thougt of it.
So remember, no matter the frustration at least it was your choice.
Congratulations! Felicitaciones And I'll give my consent to any government that does not deny a man a living wage-Billy Bragg
Tsk.
Good luck anyway keep to the Fen Causeway
you are the media you consume.
I can only say that it is possible to get married in a registry office, and still have a memorable party, because I have done it twice. They are treasured moments even for Registry Offices. The obscure kipper tie on the official, his futile attempt to use English in an attempt to make me feel part of the ceremony, my terrible hangover from the stag party the night before, glimpses of proud faces etc etc. I don't think the experience is so very different from doing it in a church. It is the event that gives you the adrenalin rush and makes the memory deeper, not the place.
The party is the one you will really remember. We don't all gather, as friends and relatives, so very often in life. It is important to remind oneself of, and experience, all the connections and how you fit in. You can't be me, I'm taken
Yes, I want to do the wedding because it's an opportunity to kind of review your life... and for me, it will be quite a pallette of people and cultures, and I'm very curious what will happen when I bring them all together! I think it will be similar for Miguel as well. We will need lots of interpreting, but that will hopefully be part of the fun. I really look forward to it.
As far as the separate party from the ceremony, we'll just have to see how awful it will get with the papers. Maybe somewhere in the process we'll just throw in the towel and run to the closest city hall in London, just to get it over with. "If you cannot say what you have to say in twenty minutes, you should go away and write a book about it." Lord Brabazon
Yes, it's a great thing to know that we can always get same-day walk-in service in London ;-) "It's the statue, man, The Statue."
You're curious, I'm terrified. "It's the statue, man, The Statue."
Maybe I should smoke some pot on the morning of the wedding. "It's the statue, man, The Statue."
The party is the one you will really remember.
Are you sure, Sven?
Parties for me are like the Sixties: if you can remember them, you weren't there! "The future is already here -- it's just not very evenly distributed" William Gibson
But it is possible to have a bilingual ceremony and party. We had guests from five continents and quite a lot of different mother tongues. But the best was the party the evening before the wedding with everybody together rather then only everybody meeting at the actual wedding day. since 95% of all guests had to travel anyway it sort of just came together, but that really gave our wedding the relaxed and calm, yet exciting and memorable overall feel - we also had a ceilidh the best wedding dance possible!
and as most sustainable firework. sparklers attached to helium balloons every guests gets one. great show!
and I second Sven's comment - you are a good writer - more please - you got me back to posting comments (-:
Would be great to see you.
Have you got my email?
I'd say yes to party and also yes to party in a Medieval custom setting and yes to making Mig do some elaborate fencing on top of the table for all to behold. Oh well. One can dream. I learned in the USA that The Wedding should be the most revered moment in one's life - which I find ridiculous. Though it doesn't make sense either (to me anyway) to go completely the other way and huff yourself past it. But well. I still don't understand the purpose of weddings...
Your diary was a blessed read - and I concur with Sven, and have said this to you before! - your writing is superb. It's deliciously refreshing in between diaries on energy and gridlocking politics and all negative gloom.... This shines, it makes me smile, and it also grabs me by the throat - like this:
European Tribune - Comments - The True Purpose of Weddings
It reminded me of Dolly Parton's quote: "You don't know how much it costs to look so cheap." I thought of all the things in the world I'd rather have for that price than this Tiffany knock-off. For instance, our entire house furnished with the most beautiful antique Chinese furniture. Or a good chunk for a deposit for our own place. Or three top-notch courses for Pilates in the best schools in London, or a series of fantastic holidays all over the world. You could rebuild an entire friggin' village in Africa with this money if you wanted, and die in peace for having served mankind. And I wanted to cry, concluding the world was truly insane.
That is so true, my heart turned over. Being here in South Africa has sobered up my feelings on the quality of life even further, which began crystallizing after my trip last summer to Sweden. I feel a diary starting to mellow.
And now I also need to write about diamonds - because your link is nice, but there's a lot more to add to the story of the Kimberley process, good and bad. It's not only PR, really. As a geologist, I'm not keen on diamond rings anyway. It's just carbon, swhat! Friends of mine (she being the geologist) of mine had rings made of fossilized wood - that I find truly appealing.
You made me smile as well, thank you! :) If I keep getting comments like yours, I will definitely keep writing more!
I think you should definitely write a diary on diamonds. I read quite a few articles on them, and didn't include all the links because I thought it would make for a whole new story. So the floor is yours!
You should share your experience from South Africa with us. I'm sure there is a lot to tell. I'll be waiting. All best to you! "If you cannot say what you have to say in twenty minutes, you should go away and write a book about it." Lord Brabazon
A-N-Y-W-A-Y...you will sort it out and it will be great. Just have fun!!
Again..CONGRATULATIONS!! "Once in awhile we get shown the light, in the strangest of places, if we look at it right" - Hunter/Garcia
Isn't that a bit old-fashioned? "It's the statue, man, The Statue."
We went through the "let's just elope to the Carribean" thing several times - I think everyone does . We found that the trick for reducing stress was just to keep everything as simple as possible. Identify the bits you care about and just go with the flow on the rest.
That's what I keep saying, but our American friends thought 18 months was too long already. "It's the statue, man, The Statue."
And, whatever you two decide to do (it will soon be thirty years since we decided not to get married, wheeze croak, the old folks...), please keep the bit where Mig wears Renaissance costume (including tights) and fences. You will never forget that. You will watch the video again and again. Every time life wears you down and you wonder what you're doing together, you will pop the DVD into your antique DVD machine and laugh and fall in love again. Miracle guaranteed.
Charles: Let me ask you one thing. Do you think - after we've dried off, after we've spent lots more time together - you might agree not to marry me? And do you think not being married to me might maybe be something you could consider doing for the rest of your life? Carrie: I do.
The wedding bands session caught my eye, but really you should not settle for less than platinum for yourself. Silver is really too soft and wears easily. By the time you're into kid three, it'll break. Sure, platinum costs but it won't give up a microgram for the next ten generations. Then if you're going to set a god-awful stone in it, platinum never moves. Mount a stone in silver and it'll be rattling around so bad you'll end up gluing it down. But aren't stones for engagement rings anyway? I mean wedding bands shouldn't have a break in their pattern. You've got to wear one night and day, year after year, haul kids and groceries, wash dishes, move furniture, all this with a damned stone getting in the way.
Mokume-gane is very beautiful, although I can't understand why Binnion uses that awful 14k gold. Europeans will not settle for less than 18k. The colour contrast usually fades quickly, but it is an original choice. Other options are Damascus steel rings with an optional inner sleeve of palladium white gold, pure gold, platinum or plain nothing. Etched Damascus steel gives that nice wood grain effect (Binnion seems to have one in his gallery- second on the left, next to last row).
As far as Pliny had it, rings should only be made of iron. He considered gold a source of evil while iron's noble nature fed and defended the empire (well, actually had a hand in building the empire) through ploughs, tools and weapons.
But if you really want something very unique and have an unlimited budget- and no allergies to nickel- you might consider using meteorite steel.
Otherwise, my choice would be tamahagane, the heart of steel, which simply has no price. In the highly improbable case that someone were to offer it to me, for example, as a gift, I would be far too ashamed to accept it. But, yes, in that case- if you were more enterprising than myself, that is not prone to grovelling at the mere sight of the stuff- it would make for a very special set of bands.
Adding ETers tends to make the guest list explode. "It's the statue, man, The Statue."
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