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mmm, nice and chewy, ta kc.

stockholm syndrome fascinates me, as does masochism.

as children we figure out on a gut level who our captors are, and how to please them. if they run naked around a maypole before dinner, we soon see the advantages of aping this behaviour, life is so much more peaceful when one doesn't rebel against the status quo...

the problems arise when other, potentially conflicting myths start to exert their attractions.

on a gut level, perhaps we are shifting allegiances to peers, who are going to be around, influencing our survival, after or parents are dead and gone, becoming the 'deciders' of much of our destinies, our new 'captors', if you will.

in short, i believe the friction between the first 'safe ' narratives, into which we are born, and the cultural memes that encourage us to wonder and question if perhaps the model to which we unthinkingly adhere is really more akin to 'reality' than the exciting new models our parents are clueless about, (but which haven't yet been time-tested).

for my generation, the advent of psychotropic agents that were a quantum leap beyond the recreational 'drugs of choice' for my parents' martini generation, is a perfect example of this dichotomy, but there are many.

how our parents handle our 'deviance', and in turn how we handle THAT, are the two principle factors in how we navigate adolescence, which of course determines so much of what we call 'character' or 'personality', ie the traits that are most rooted in our psychological make-up at the most crucial formative stages, becoming the most embedded and difficult to modify.

i prefer the word 'modulate' actually, as modify is a bit utilitarian for the delicate 'wetwork' involved.

as for crackers and rocks, when was the first apprehension that all was not what it seemed?

i remember the sense of betrayal when, even emptying out the whole brand new cereal box on the table to find him, the little plastic toy promised on the box, and he WASN'T THERE!!!

around 4 or 5 i guess.

natch, as soon as the wool starts to shift from the optics, the road to all-out scepticism is swift and short, as there is little so dignity-stripping as failing to follow the 'right' ideas.

my dad being an advertising man certainly helped me look at the meta around trust, belief and gullibility early and often.

it was odd to learn that other families didn't gather round the boobtoob to watch the new 'cheezwhiz' commercial, for example.

a useful lesson in the proclivity for lies that is such a feature of the 'free marketista' ideology, and how many of us grown adults are still sifting through the cornflakes in search of the 'satisfaction' promised on the box, and still beating ourselves up for having believed it.

see where masochism fits in?

and to remedy the pain from that, we are encouraged to collaborate in snaring others into the same mire, as misery loves company, and why should someone else go free, when being enslaved is the right and proper survival strategy?

i mean. we're all in this together, sink or swim, right?

right?

sure buddy....now please sign here....

'The history of public debt is full of irony. It rarely follows our ideas of order and justice.' Thomas Piketty

by melo (melometa4(at)gmail.com) on Wed Mar 7th, 2007 at 06:15:21 PM EST

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