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...and yet there is always the danger that I might upset someone even more by making a not very well thought through comment or remark.
really brought back some memories for me, for in fact,I've been in that audience you've been in too, and can remember two occasions where this precise thing happens. I know it's just a stage of guilt to get angry about such things, but it's funny how memories of really inappropriate dialogues revolving around grief are themselves vivid too.

Your text is perfect.

In fact, it is better than perfect, because it is good not just for a grieving audience, but actually would be also quite good for those preparing for grief, and this is no mean feet.

Do let us know how your dialogue goes. This is one thing I don't think I'd have the strength to do myself, eight years after..

The Hun is always either at your throat or at your feet. Winston Churchill

by r------ on Wed Mar 5th, 2008 at 08:30:25 AM EST
In Ireland funerals always take place within a couple of days and postmortems are only carried out in the case of suspicious deaths - and even then its all happens very quickly - its all a bit of a blur really, but neighbours and friends rally round and help to organise everything.

I once put my foot in it with a colleague in England.  I was trying to schedule a meeting a couple of weeks ahead and he said that didn't suit because he had to attend a funeral.  Quick as a flash, and without thinking I said - God! Who's going to die?  Fortunately it wasn't a close friend or relative that had died and he saw the funny side of it (I think...)

The Remembrance evening won't be until the end of next month, and there won't be a formal discussion on afterwards, though some people may come up to me afterwards and say a few words.  If I feel its worth reporting on here I'll add another comment - or maybe publish a new Diary if this one has been archived - although I don't want to labour the points already made.  Many thanks for your kind words.

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by Frank Schnittger (mail Frankschnittger at hot male dotty communists) on Wed Mar 5th, 2008 at 12:28:42 PM EST
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