This is sad. My toilet at home, like all other home toilets, is unisex. There are issues with raising and lowering the seat, but that is behaviour that can be altered - as I do when my girls are with me because, in the end, it is a simple gestural action of no consequence. It just has to be remembered.

As a father, when the girls were very young, I remember a few months when I was not sure whether to take the girls with me to the male toilets so I could help them, or let them go to the other side. Ultimately it was easy because one was older and more responsible.

Public toilets - where everyone is a stranger - have a statistical chance of containing a nutter who might be a threat to anyone - whatever gender, age or otherwise. I don't know what the answer is. Except perhaps better cultural education. It seems weird to me that after all of these centuries after Thomas Crapper, we haven't worked this one out. We all do it every day. There's no avoiding it. Why can't we be civilized?

You can't be me, I'm taken