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This intimacy can only be enjoyed when those roles are left at the door.
I have to disagree here. I am pretty convinced now that hierarchy role games are an important (if not the key) part of sexual attraction. Career lady lawyers are surely sick of intimidating everyone! Feminism would need centuries to change biochemical triggers. And the favour projection towards the 1% alpha is not a logical choice for the most women, I have to suggest.

So you related this diary to me living in Greece, nice! You would expect that above average employment and prospects would be a good sell in a crisis stricken country. But no way you can rely on that! I do not remember pickier women anywhere else (or ever?). Thus I resorted to internet search soon, haha.

by das monde on Wed Jun 18th, 2014 at 11:10:45 AM EST
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I have to disagree here. I am pretty convinced now that hierarchy role games are an important (if not the key) part of sexual attraction.

They certainly are for adolescents, and for many adults, see my remarks about highly gendered sexual scripting. But what Melo is suggesting (also Wife of Bath), is that to have a mature, equal relationship then you need to leave that hierarchy stuff out. All of us have played these games, many of us have left them behind.

And by the way... Don't knock internet matching. I would recommend it strongly for anyone who is having difficulty meeting a compatible partner.

It is rightly acknowledged that people of faith have no monopoly of virtue - Queen Elizabeth II

by eurogreen on Wed Jun 18th, 2014 at 11:28:42 AM EST
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Thanks! I feel so much more competent now than a year ago.
by das monde on Wed Jun 18th, 2014 at 11:37:34 AM EST
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