I have to disagree here. I am pretty convinced now that hierarchy role games are an important (if not the key) part of sexual attraction.

They certainly are for adolescents, and for many adults, see my remarks about highly gendered sexual scripting. But what Melo is suggesting (also Wife of Bath), is that to have a mature, equal relationship then you need to leave that hierarchy stuff out. All of us have played these games, many of us have left them behind.

And by the way... Don't knock internet matching. I would recommend it strongly for anyone who is having difficulty meeting a compatible partner.

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