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There's no way I could put up with some guy trying to tell me what to do. My husband would be considered meek by some people, but he's actually just smart. I fell in love with his kindness. He's NOT a fighter, so that role falls to me (for example, in dealings with any employers who try to get away with being unfair to him.)

Can't say I didn't look for alpha males when I was a lot younger, but didn't find any I could live with, and I didn't know myself and my needs back then, either. Once I wised up, I looked for kindness.

'tis strange I should be old and neither wise nor valiant. From "The Maid's Tragedy" by Beaumont & Fletcher

by Wife of Bath (kareninaustin at g mail dot com) on Mon Jun 16th, 2014 at 05:22:07 PM EST
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There are reasons for long-term and situational attraction factors to differ. And interpretation of the 'essential' alpha qualities can be wide. Trying to tell what to do might signal needy weakness to you, while kindness - a royal strength.

The last decades show increasingly one-sided social media influences on young women, narrowing their emotional (or economic) focus, making them reluctant to wise up, compromise. Especially pop music videos, the clubbing atmosphere 'subtly' scream "Attract alpha" to them. The internet, smartphones give women more power and potentially a global scope of options - with the default behavior influence pretty narcissistic. And then we have fashion, cosmetics industries, women magazines, with apparently similar effect of their agenda. No wonder if the primal triggers are more involved then before, especially when most guys cannot keep accessing them.

by das monde on Tue Jun 17th, 2014 at 04:12:41 AM EST
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Social media influences on young women, IMO, have not become any stronger today than they were in the early twentieth century. They may be more easily accessed, but the newspapers and magazines and, more to the point, the societally-enforced rules (in schools, churches, workplaces, homes) were very influential, compelling even, a century ago.

'tis strange I should be old and neither wise nor valiant. From "The Maid's Tragedy" by Beaumont & Fletcher
by Wife of Bath (kareninaustin at g mail dot com) on Tue Jun 17th, 2014 at 04:55:18 PM EST
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