Welcome to European Tribune. It's gone a bit quiet around here these days, but it's still going.

Why I hate birthdays (used to)

by Agnes a Paris Tue Dec 5th, 2006 at 04:02:28 PM EST

First everyday is somebody's birthday. So what's so special about that altogether?
Second, birth dates are known for sure in the Western world only. I remember as a schoolgirl in Ivory Coast seeing the birth date of late President Houphouet Boigny altered every year in our schoolbooks, a convenient way to keep him eternal until the natural end of his term eventually arrived (he did not need running for 3 subsequent elections).
Third, I prefer offering gifts than receiving them; the charge of proving happy with the gift does not rest upon my shoulders.

Enough irony. Humor  is a convenient shelter for sure but I have decided to write about my all-favorite subject, myself, so jump below the thread or leave it when it's still time.<s> By the way, writing being considered a way to confront one's demons, it is only natural I give my own self priority.


When I was in my late twenties, my birthday was a landmark date in my personal history of the year. I used to try and assess my expected level of happiness according to what I had achieved using bulletproof criteria reflecting my ascension of the social and professional ladder. Agreed, I would not have got along very well with then self had I met her today. The inputs were all in the rosy range: a job my male colleagues were envying me, a happy couple with an amazing husband (the Prince Charming-escaping from Cinderella-for my eyes only kind), and wealth. Strangely enough, the outputs of the black box I was using to set my score on the happiness scale were puzzling.  I was not happy.

So I thought I would do more, work harder, and spend more quality time with my husband, friends, and hope for 48 hours days. Then I heard wonder woman was not hype any longer which I took as a sign of precocious senility, not even being able to keep pace with the trends any longer. Then I stopped thinking at all, which admittedly was much more convenient on the short term but bound to backlash.
Life having spared me a lot in the past decade remembered there was someone out there forgetting it was too short. Do we need to experience loss to feel how much we care? Apparently I did.

Today, no that long later in real time, amazingly though if I follow my perception of the last two years, I am aware of what I have and why I feel happy. Awareness. Promise, no flimsy concept borrowed from some guru. I no longer nurture misplaced conceit (life has squeezed it out for me, for the better), and feel grateful for what I have left, even if the image is no longer quite that of super woman.
Still my birthday today is one of the best I can remember. I did not receive teddy bears and dolls like when I was a child, but phone calls, mails and texts, and the best present I got is confidence that I can carry on through life without too much fear, for people by my side believe in me when my own belief is wavering.

Display:
Happy birthday, Agnes!
by afew (afew(a in a circle)eurotrib_dot_com) on Tue Dec 5th, 2006 at 04:32:50 PM EST
Thank you, sweetheart. ;-)

When through hell, just keep going. W. Churchill
by Agnes a Paris on Tue Dec 5th, 2006 at 04:35:11 PM EST
[ Parent ]
And I definitely hate when my virtual pals are not around to write "happy birthday". Thank God for Afew ; quality, not quantity... ;-)

When through hell, just keep going. W. Churchill
by Agnes a Paris on Tue Dec 5th, 2006 at 05:47:49 PM EST
I see I have another "valeur sure" on board. Happy enough to go to sleep with sweet dreams in sight.

When through hell, just keep going. W. Churchill
by Agnes a Paris on Tue Dec 5th, 2006 at 05:49:43 PM EST
[ Parent ]
Happy Birthday Agnes

have a cake



Any idiot can face a crisis - it's day to day living that wears you out.

by ceebs (ceebs (at) eurotrib (dot) com) on Tue Dec 5th, 2006 at 06:34:32 PM EST
Happy Birthday to you, Agnes.
From Rose


Hey, Grandma Moses started late!
by LEP on Wed Dec 6th, 2006 at 04:34:53 AM EST


"Dieu se rit des hommes qui se plaignent des conséquences alors qu'ils en chérissent les causes" Jacques-Bénigne Bossuet
by Melanchthon on Wed Dec 6th, 2006 at 08:06:49 AM EST
Happy birthday, though I believe I'm late.

So happy day after birthday?

Is it Wednesday already????

by Colman (colman at eurotrib.com) on Wed Dec 6th, 2006 at 08:18:05 AM EST
belated does not matter, wishes count. Thank you Colman. After all, my wishes for your birthday were belated as well if you remember.

When through hell, just keep going. W. Churchill
by Agnes a Paris on Wed Dec 6th, 2006 at 01:38:05 PM EST
[ Parent ]

Belated but heartfelt birthday wishes, Agnes ... to wish you not just one day but a full, rewarding year of ever more joyful steps along the road to happiness,accompanied by everything it takes - including the truest of true companions - to live with joy on this unique, still-so-beautiful planet.

With a big big hug!  

"Ignoring moralities is always undesirable, but doing so systematically is really worrisome." Mohammed Khatami

by eternalcityblues (parvati_roma aaaat libero.it) on Wed Dec 6th, 2006 at 09:20:21 AM EST
Happy Birthday Agnes. :-D

Money is a sign of Poverty - Culture Saying
by RogueTrooper on Wed Dec 6th, 2006 at 09:37:58 AM EST
Belated (!) Happy Birthday Agnes

The only thing necessary for the persistence of evil is for enough good people to do nothing
by deviousdiva (thedeviousdiva@gmail.com) on Wed Dec 6th, 2006 at 12:46:12 PM EST
Happy Birthday, Agnes!  And much more of this growth to you.

Our knowledge has surpassed our wisdom. -Charu Saxena.
by metavision on Wed Dec 6th, 2006 at 01:43:27 PM EST
they send flowers and cakes that will last forever, instead of insisting on throwing a party for me while I am in bed with a flu...

When through hell, just keep going. W. Churchill
by Agnes a Paris on Wed Dec 6th, 2006 at 02:17:39 PM EST
[ Parent ]
Not fair.  I´m just over one too and I tell myself that all the spicy food I ate helped me.  Lots of wasabe, kimchi? and oriental stuff and some hot concoction with rum that I made up.

Hope you get over it quick.

Our knowledge has surpassed our wisdom. -Charu Saxena.

by metavision on Wed Dec 6th, 2006 at 02:32:05 PM EST
[ Parent ]
I love spicy food (used to grow up with it when I lived in Africa, harissa and all that stuff) unfortunately my kidney denies me the right to eat any now.

When through hell, just keep going. W. Churchill
by Agnes a Paris on Wed Dec 6th, 2006 at 02:43:25 PM EST
[ Parent ]
Image Hosted by ImageShack.us

Don't forget to blow out the candles:  ¡¡¡¡¡¡¡¡¡¡... (wait, how many should there be?)

Maybe we can eventually make language a complete impediment to understanding. -Hobbes

by Izzy (izzy at eurotrib dot com) on Wed Dec 6th, 2006 at 05:15:51 PM EST
far too many, I'm afraid. 28 according to someone who is an expert.. ;-)

When through hell, just keep going. W. Churchill
by Agnes a Paris on Wed Dec 6th, 2006 at 05:25:53 PM EST
[ Parent ]


Display:
Go to: [ European Tribune Homepage : Top of page : Top of comments ]

Top Diaries