While I was surfing Internet randomly I found this on Albanian site:
The Legend of Rozafa
http://www.geocities.com/spiritofalbania/legendofrozafa

And I was surprised cause that same legend is actually our legend described in"Skadar on the Bojana" (an old Serbian folk epic about building the town of Skadar on the Bojana river...It gives exact names of the participants and I'll never forget how this epic has terrifying influence on me because of the cruelty of those times but at the same time it glorified sacrifice...So see we are brought up on the same (cruel) legends ...Who actually is plagiarist here I don't know but it definitely is considered our heritage at some point?... 1040. Serbs conquered Skadar and it became a centre of Serbian state Zeta, -1350. it became capital of Serbian family Balšić...

Science without religion is lame, religion without science is blind...Albert Einstein

I would contend that people in the region throughout most of its history have actded entirely logically in response to the situations they found themselves in.  If outsiders view the results as evidence of a propensity to mindless violence, that is mostly because of ignorance.  We should all take a long, hard look at our own history (and present behaviour of our states) before jumping to easy stereotypes.

The Balkans have been unfortunate in being the battleground where the games of the european (including Ottoman) empires were played out for the longest period of time, with no account whatsoever being taken of the people who actually lived there.  The Great Powers have tended to reward opportunism and military aggression.  The statesmen of the Balkans learned the obvious lessons.  The result is that almost all states and ethnic groups have genuine, just grievances about their treatment in the past

As to the future for Kosovo (and the wider southwest Balkans), i agree with a previous commenter that an absolute right to self determination would be a catastrophic mistake.  It could only result in the piling on of several more layers of injustice, perceived insults to the 'pride' of nations, and a new set of rightful grievances.  Not much hope for the future in that.  If foreign powers can have a positive influence on the outcome, it may be by making it clear to all parties in dispute that aggressors will not prevail, that rabble-rousing of the kind recently deployed by Albania's foreign minister will be viewed as aggression exactly as physical aggression would be.  There's enough history inn the immediate vicinity that everyone must know the danger in that kind of populist rhetoric.

Conversely, and more concretely, the EU could make it clear that internal arrangements enabling peaceful cooperation of different peoples in a state are a precondition to membership.  I don't hold out much hope, again because the conventional wisdom appears to be that different 'ethnic groups' cannot cooperate in this way.  The brutal history of ethnic cleansing, official and unofficial, with or without Great Power complicity or supervision, is conveniently forgotten.  I am thinking of Greece/Turkey, India/Pakistan, the de facto partition of Bosnia, among many examples.  Why should it work now when it's failed before?